Grief During The Holidays
October 23, 2019
Losing a loved one is always heartbreaking, but the sense of grief and loss that arises during the holidays can be devastating for many. We are proud to offer a Grief Support Group here at FirstChurch, thanks to the capable leadership and guidance of Rev. JoNell Lindh. Below, she talks about how these groups are helpful – please invite anyone you know who may benefit to join!
The death of someone we love changes our lives forever. The moving from the “before” to the “after” is almost always a long, painful journey. Losing a loved one to death brings deep, raw feelings of grief, yet society often encourages us to move away from it prematurely. We cannot pretend it did not happen, nor can we circle around the edges of our grief – we must wade right in, sometimes meandering the side roads, sometimes plowing right into its raw center. Leaning toward grief is what will facilitate your eventual healing.
Grief is hard work. Grieving may be the hardest work you have ever done, and unfortunately does not happen quickly or efficiently. And the holidays can be especially trying as Thanksgiving and Christmas tend to bring up memories of family and loved ones. Since holidays tend to mark the passage of time and generally serve as milestones for families, experiencing these times once a loved one has passed can be particularly difficult.
Yet, the hard work of grieving is less burdensome when others lend a hand. If you are grieving the loss of a loved one which has occurred in the last year or two, come and join our Grief Support Group. We will meet from 12:30-2 p.m. on Sundays, November 3, 10, 17, 24 and December 3 in the Rotunda Theatre.
Groups are especially helpful in times of grief because we are often conditioned to avoid talking about loss and grief, both culturally and socially. Taking part in a group allows you to begin the healing process by telling your own story and hearing the stories of others. This will be a loving, confidential, safe place with others who will tend to each other with Christian love and understanding. Even if you are healing well from a loss, come and share your experience and enjoy companionship on this journey.
Together, with the love of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ we will walk into this wilderness to find the beginnings of a peaceful renewal and a new normal. If you have questions, please contact me at 214-697-5825.
“I have been trying to make the best of grief and am just beginning to learn to allow it to make the best of me.” Barbara Lazear Ascher